Where is she?” I thought to myself. Girlfriend is always up for a last minute spur-of-the-moment outing…or at least she used to be. “Hmmm,” I continued to think to myself, “I haven’t heard from her in the last few days. Oh, no…I’ll bet”…and sure enough, when her call does come…yep, there’s a new man in her world.

Here we go talking about the roller-coaster ride of LUV and how and why some intelligent women seem to lose their minds and themselves in relationship! Have you been there done that or know someone who has? Have you ever been up and down and all around the emotional merry-go-round of luv? Have you ever thought, “Gurlfriend, what did you do with your brain?” Or, looked in the mirrow and asked yourself that very same question?

How do we know when we are beginning to lose ourselves in relationship?

As a single woman, my first clues are when a girlfriend seemingly falls off the planet just as I discribed above. Then, I found myself ditto-ing her exact actions with my friends in my first serious post divorce relationship.

Of course, entering any new relationship takes time and investment. We all get that. I am curious, though as to the warning signs or the “stacking” of behaviors that begin to equal a loss of self…a loss in the equality of rights from one relationship to another…particularly with ourselves.

What signs have you noticed in yourselves and in others that are clues you or they are losing it–a piece of “self” in relationship.

Let’s talk!

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